a self-love ritual for Valentine’s Day
Even if you’re part of a couple there’s just so much “stuff” attached to this holiday. Just the thought of the day sends me right back to High School; the panic of not receiving a pink carnation Valentine gram from an admirer (secret or otherwise). The pure envy of watching the popular girls prance down the hallway with what seemed like a wagon full of carnations (did literally the entire school adore them? It certainly seemed so at the time). No wonder why the whole “love yourself” message gets lost on me… the stories of not being worthy of a single carnation still chase me!
This year we should rewrite our Valentine’s Day story. Seriously! Enough revisiting the past and licking old wounds! Whether in a couple or flying solo- the one person we should be writing Shakespearean sonnets to is ourselves.
Self Love. Self Care. I know- over played.. over blogged. But for good reason. We’re terrible to ourselves. The self talk is often nasty and often we put ourselves last. Heck- I know I’m guilty of it.
This week- whether on Valentine’s Day or not- take a moment to celebrate yourself with this simple ritual. And seriously- no excuses- we’re making this simple enough that you can’t say “I don’t have the tools necessary”. And we’re not going to force you to get into a bath either. If taking a bath is your thing- well, by all means, conduct your ritual there. But if you’re like me and you just don’t want to- then don’t!
What You Need:
- writing instrument of your choice
- a piece of paper or journal
- a quiet space- bedroom, bathtub, backyard, living room, or comfy chair. Any place you can relax.
Take some time to write a love letter to yourself.. it doesn’t need to be in narrative. It can just be a list. No excuses. Write down all the reasons why you’re amazing. From the way you snort when you laugh to the way you can see small details and appreciate them. From your excellent cake recipe to your love of cussing and caffeine (ok.. I just described myself)… write it down.
Take a long look at all the things that make you, you! Even if there are some not-so-awesome things.. put them down there.. and give them love. Give them grace. Cause you are deserving of love exactly how you are. Right now.
There is nothing you need to change. You are perfectly you. Deserving of love and grace right in this moment.
So take a moment and write it all down- even if only for five minutes. And marvel in the you, you are. Breathe into the you on the paper. Thank yourself- for showing up. For trying. For making an excellent cup of coffee… for just being a human being in this moment- that’s hard too!
And that’s it-that’s our ritual- if you want to “next-level” it, seal that self-love narrative into some quartz (rose, clear– whatever you have), and allow it to send you love when you need it. If you need help picking a stone, feel free to contact us!
We wish you a Valentine’s Day full of love for yourself. We see you and we love you.
P.S. If you absolutely 100% MUST do the couples thing, Check out this awesome article at keepinspiring.me